You know, I don’t think I have ever apologized to my wife for all the hell I put her through when I would get into “Pink Fog’s” years ago.
For anybody wondering the “Pink Fog” can be described as an intense desire towards your dressing. Whether that means the actual act itself or wanting to go and buy things for the act. At one point or another, I was guilty of all that. And in some respects, I may have been slightly worse than some others. After a conference, my wife picked up a pamphlet that described the signs of Attention Deficit Disorder in adults, I actually met 10 of the 12 criteria. One of the biggest being Hyper Focusing.
Well, what is Hyper Focusing you may ask?
“People with ADHD may immerse themselves so completely in an activity that they want to do or enjoy doing to the point that they become oblivious to everything around them. This concentration can be so intense that an individual loses track of time, other chores, or the surrounding environment. While this level of intensity can be channeled into difficult tasks, such as work or homework, the downside is that ADHD individuals can become immersed in unproductive activities while ignoring pressing responsibilities.”
The quote is taken from here.
Yup, that’s me in a nutshell, so that means I can hyperfocus on my dressing to the point where it can be an extreme thought in my head. What have I done to my poor wife.
The dressing according to my wife was never the problem, it was when I was incessantly bugging about it that it became a problem. Whenever I wanted something new or wanted to dress it was her that took the brunt of having to hear about it. It could be for days or weeks on end that I would go on about it, looking back it makes me feel like a huge pain.
Thankfully I did (I hope) get better with the Pink Fog. Firstly because I was able to get over my fears of buying things for myself and secondly because my dressing has evolved to the point where I don’t really go into dressing hiatuses anymore. The dressing is always close to my thoughts no matter what time of year or how I am feeling anymore, although I still do find when stressed I do want to dress more still.
Just to get the other side of this conversation I decided to ask my wife some questions about it.
1: How would you describe how my pink fogs affected you? It became your only focus, the only thing you would talk about, the only shopping you wanted to do. It made me want to avoid you.
2: To the best of your recollection, how often did they occur? In the beginning every 4 or 5 months. But they have lessened.
3: What was worse, wanting to dress, wanting to buy things, or just me talking about it? Wanting to buy things. I hate shopping.
4: Was there a time when it became worse? When stress picked up.
5: Did you ever just want the dressing and fogs to go away? No, it was part of you. I accepted that before we were even married. The fog at times I wanted you to focus on something else.
6: I am better now, Right? Yes you are a lot better but I think part of that is because you can feel comfortable going out shopping on your own. I have never liked clothing shopping, buying makeup and I despise shoe shopping. It just feels like a waste of time and money to me. It has never been me. I am comfortable in Jean’s and tank tops, I barely wear makeup and I would go around barefoot if I could. You call me a hippie. lol, My thing is books, art, wool.Love ya!
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