Casual Saturday

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So yesterday was a cleaning and chore day,  but I did not wear myself out because I had plans for dressing in the evening.

During breaks between cleaning, I had decided to make a new pair of longer rounded nails for the night.  Recently I had picked up some new Revlon nail polish on sale and other than on my toes I had not used them yet. DSC04903 I made them longer than I normally do but I wanted something a little more fancy for the night.

After finishing all my chores it was around 4 pm and I had my shower and shaved my face.  I was going to do a full face of makeup but just slapped on a coat of Covergirl Colorlicious lipstick inDSC04703 Bombshell pink.  I like how this feels on the lips and the amount of color but it is very staining so if I needed to get it off quickly,  this is not something I would reach for.

I decided that this would be a casual night with trying on some recent hand me downs from the wife.  I pulled on my only pair of Jeans,  a floral embroidered pair from Addition Elle and pulled on the first top which was a short sleeved animal print top from Laura Plus.  It has a gold ring stitched into the center of the neck line that add’s a little pop to it.  I paired it with an Infinity sweater from Addition Elle dsc04918_edited.jpgand tossed on my heels and voila, Casual night in.

I decided to pop into another top I recently picked up which is a black and white sleeveless top with an attached silver chain with plastic crystals.
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After getting all dressed I applied my nails and sat back and watched some Netflix and surfed the web.DSC04934

It was a pretty uneventful night which is just the way I like them.

 

Thanks for Reading

Cynthia

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Thing’s I have learned being a Crossdresser: 4 Years Later

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One of my most read blog post’s of all time is Things I have learned being a Crossdresser and as of August 2017 it has reached 1000 views.  I figured seeing as it has reached 1000 a update to the blog with the other things I have learned and where I am today was in order.  I have the original text in black and my new updates in pink.

I have learned so many things in my time as a Cross Dresser.   Dressing up like a woman takes so much skill and patience I am amazed women go through this every day.

1) Clothes

This is the first minefield you should try and cross,  and let me tell you it’s a big one.   Shopping for Men’s clothes is pretty simple as a whole.  Pants, shirt, underwear and socks.  Choose from some of your basic colors like brown, green or blue and you are set.  Women’s clothes on the other hand is a multitude  of colors and fabrics all of which make a completely different look  and statement when worn in the daytime or  night.  I have spent many many hours on the internet looking at clothes and I seem to only have touched the surface of what is out there.

I have expanded my wardrobe over the last 4 years with lots of new stuff that I never thought I would have worn before.  From long dresses, shorter skirts and sheer lace tops.  I was lucky enough to get a female friend that was very helpful in the fashion department.  I would regularly send her pictures of something I wanted to buy and get her opinions of what should or could be matched with the said item.   My best idea now is just to buy stuff that I like and think will be fun to wear.

We also cannot forget the base to any good outfit, The Lingerie.  My Lingerie drawer has expanded with my wardrobe to incorporate many more pieces.  Sometimes you will want to wear a top that has a low collar and you need a lower cut bra that cannot be seen in the collar of the top.

2) Skin care and Make up

Again, another minefield.  I feel that cosmetics as a whole is one of the most confusing things to learn as a Cross Dresser,  clothes can be figured out but to truly learn how to pick the colors that suit you and learn to apply said colors really takes practice.  Make up sections in most stores are fairly big,  at least 4 to 5 isles.  This is where will usually find,  make up,  nail polish and supplies, fragrance and various other beauty tools (brushes, sponges, etc).  I remember the first time I went to purchase some make up with my wife.  I was so nervous the whole time I just pointed at some stuff and did not really pay attention as to what colours I was getting.  Well after my first attempt at using said colours I looked like a clown and not even a funny clown,  more like a horror movie clown.  There are lots of website that give hints and tips for finding the right matches for your skin tone and skin type.  Another good option would be to consult your local stores or salons to see if they are CD friendly and have some help learning.  Most places will give lessons if you buy a specific amount of product.

I wish I would have not used the term “Minefield” once let alone twice,  Oh well.  You live and learn.

I would  like to say that I was awesome at applying my make up,  But I am only slightly better than I was four years ago.  It’s hard to to practise on make up when it’s such a time consuming thing to work on.  There is the shaving,  moisturising and so on and so forth.  I like to have at least a good 2 to 3 hours for a make up practise session because I know at least 3 times I will have to start all over again.

I am still trying to find the right shade of foundation without any luck.  I have spent more on foundation than any other make up product.  I am currently looking into getting a appointment the local MAC store to get matched.  Apparently the store here has a good reputation from the local community but they do not have a private room so I would have my appointment right out in the front of the store,  I am sure I am not ready for that yet.

I have given up on trying to only find “The Right Colours” for me.  Instead I buy whatever colours I want to try and have fun with.  My lipstick and eye colour choices have not gone extreme in any way but I am for sure going for brighter red and pinks and so far they look pretty good.  As far as skin care I am still pretty relaxed about it only paying attention to my skin just before I get ready to apply my make up.

3) Shaving your legs

I am positive every woman is a contortionist with a perfect sense of balance and eyes like a hawk.  I can’t seem to shave my legs without missing a huge area of hair,  not being able to see some areas at all or almost falling over and killing myself.    My wife was nice enough to teach me how to shave my legs years ago.  I say shave but the first time was more like clearing a forest,  and I ran out of hot water in the shower TWICE,  it was well over a hour experience.  Now I only shave in the winter months which is when Cynthia wants to come out more and the fact that I don’t want to tell people why I shave my legs.  I know most people will not believe I am a Olympic swimmer or cyclist.

Practise makes better,  But I am still not perfect.  Once the weather turns cold in early fall I start shaving my legs and that first trim is the hardest part in my opinion and takes the longest amount of time.  It really helps to have a well lit shower and at least the edge of the tub to prop your foot up on.  Remember to use lots of shave gel and a decent razor.  I find it’s best to completely wash and get your hair done,  That way your leg hair will be softer from the hot water and easier to cut.  I get quite a few shaves from my current razor and I am usually shaving my legs at least every 2 to 3 days otherwise I end up with tons of little ingrown hairs..  If you have really coarse leg hair you may need to change your blades more often to prevent razor burn and ingrown hairs.

Since I posted this I also have started shaving my chest in the winter months as well.  There is nothing worse than having a nice lower cut top and passing a mirror and seeing all those chest hairs poking out from a really nice top.  I tried little straps that attached to a bra that would mimic the top of a cami,  they are OK but just not the look I wanted to go for.  So for the first time last winter I shaved my chest and tried to make some cleavage.  Did not go as well as some things I found on the internet but at least it looked better.  The chest area does get super itchy when the little hairs grow back in,  it almost drove me crazy.

4) Your Significant Other

If you are as lucky as me to have a wife or girlfriend who can accept your feminine side you are in a good place.  Also you are in a place to loose many things.  I cannot count how much stuff I have lost to my wife over the years.  Everything from make up to blouses.  Seems she uses it once and it ends up in her regular rotation.

I am so lucky that my Wife puts up with me even after all these years.  I know at times I was very annoying when it came to either talking about dressing or wanting her to take me shopping that I am sure at times she wished the Crossdressing would just go away.  I think I have mellowed over the years and now that I can go out and just buy my own stuff makes it a lot easier on her,  although she does still like a good shopping spree every now and then.

5) Nail Polish

Looks easy doesn’t it?  That is until you try it for yourself.  When you watch a video on Youtube the brush strokes seem oh so easy until you try to replicate it and you end up using more nail polish remover than nail polish.   Similar to make up,  Nail polish requires time to learn how to do it properly.

I gave up on painting my own natural finger nails,  way to much work only to have to take it off either that night or the next morning.  I could never get good with painting my right hand nails with my left hand.  I went and bought large sized acrylic nails and made myself quite a few sets.  The great thing with the fake nails and tip stickers it that the nails can be removed and used over and over again.  It’s also a way easier way to experiment with nail ideas.  The fake nails are fairly easy to cut and shape in any way you want then paint and with the price they will not break the bank doing so.  I did a kinda tutorial that you can read here.

I have learned how to paint my toenails decently well and I tend to keep them painted from fall right back into spring.  I use Nina Ultra Pro nail polish from Sally beauty that has a wider than normal brush.

6) Pantyhose on wet legs

You may as well fight a Polar bear because you have about the same odds at winning that fight as you do getting a pair of pantyhose up damp legs.  It’s damn near impossible to pull them up and at the same time you have to be super careful not to put a run in them or all your hard work just went down the drain.  Take a hint from me wait till you are totally dry or invest in thigh highs.

Still can’t get pantyhose on wet legs,  But I did get pantyhose on with my fake nails already done and didn’t put a run in them so that’s a WIN.

Well that’s all I can think of for now,  I am sure  I will think up some more.

And for those of you that do read my blog till the end I appreciate that you can make it through basically what amounts to ranting on for what seem like forever.

So that’s my 4 years later update.  I got some wins and some things that I still need to work on.  Crossdressing is ever evolving.

Thanks

Cynthia

 

Hello 2017

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I had planned on putting this posting out on Monday the 2nd of January,  as you can see I got a little behind.  Well better late than never.

Well, we made it,  Yet another trip around the sun and here were are fresh and new in 2017.  I hope all my Readers and Friends had a great New Years Eve.  Mine was slow paced and I didn’t even make it to midnight but that’s okay it was still fun enough.  I was able to dress and just hang around the house with some movies and snacks and have a laid back easy night.

I did take some pictures and tweeted them through the night but I figured I would post them all here as well for my first blog post of 2017.

So I had planned to start getting ready Friday night after work (Shower and shave legs) but that did not pan out at all,  after spending the day outside in the cold I was exhausted.  Normally I can make it from 4 to 10 pm but Friday night I had to take a nap from 5 to 7 just to be able to get back on my feet.  After waking up I was still somewhat tired so decided against doing anything more than painting my toenails and pulling all my stuff out of storage.

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The box on the Very top is all my makeup and the one below that is all Lingerie.  The box on the right of that is stockings, pantyhose and where I keep my forms.  The big green box is all clothes plus there were about 2 more bags from summer sales that I still have not had time to put away in the box.  I should really clean that box out because I know there is some at the bottom that I never wear anymore.   It would be great if there was enough closet space to hang all this up but alas there is not.

The box on the floor at left is nail polish and on the right is more stuff like deodorant, facial cleansers and moisturizer.

Saturday morning I was slow getting going and was out of bed at around 7 am.  Coffee was a must and after about 4 or so cups I was ready to go.  I decided I needed a nice new set of nails for the night so I set about making up a set.  I decided to do something other than the squared oval that I have been doing.

I have searched before online to try and find dsc03783some type of guide to nail shaping but is seems most times they are done the nails are already attached to the person before they are cut and filed into the profile wanted.  It was easier said than done but I was able to measure the length I wanted and then use a circle template to roughly mark out the rounded shape I wanted.  I then cut the excess off and finished off with some custom nail files I had made that have more grit for taking off material faster.  I was pretty happy with how the shaping turned out and decided to go with a color that up until that point I had not used called Glistening Plum that I used on my toes Friday night.  dsc03805

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I was really happy with how these turned out and extremely happy with this color.  If the lights hit these just the right way they almost look metallic like in the top photo.

So after finishing the nails and getting a little bit ofdsc03799 cleaning and some laundry done it was close to about 2 in the afternoon so it was off to the shower with some of my favorite stuff to really start to get ready.  I love to take my time when having a shower,  there is nothing worse than being rushed and missing a ton of hairs on your leg.  I have been using the Gillette Venus Swirl razor for over a year now and out of all that I have tried I really like it the best.  My only complaint here is with the Shave Gel,  I can’t say I am really crazy about the smell but overall is decent to use.  The original type I used does not seem to be made anymore,  I am a little sad over that.

After taking my time in the shower it was still only about a quarter after 3 and I was so excited for the new nails that I just had to get them on right away,  this was a bad idea.

The nails take me anywhere from 15 to 20 minutes to apply.  Getting all the adhesive strips on then removing the second part and then finally applying the nail all takes time and patience as to not screw things up.  As I was sitting there admiring my new beautiful nails I realized I was not dressed yet or had my make up on.  I was not about to take them off because even though I have lots of the adhesive strips they no longer sell them at the beauty store so what I have left has to last me.  This was going to be a real challenge.

Now I sometimes have a hard time doing my bra strap up as it is because I prefer to do it up from the back which I hear is less wear and tear on the garment than doing it up from the front and then spinning it around.  I had to fiddle with it but was pretty happy with myself after finishing the last of the 4 clasps.  Now came the pantyhose.  I have a hard time with pantyhose on the best of days,  my hands are so rough that even my skin can snag on them and make it almost impossible to get on let alone with new long nails that I am still getting used to wearing.  After some fidgeting, swear words and some close calls I was now again one step closer.

Now makeup……..This again was going to be a little bit of a task seeing as now I was having a hard time opening up my compacts and cases to get the products I needed to use.  Foundation was easy but the eye shadow cases seemed to be a bit of an issue but I perceived and even though it was not one of my best jobs the face was done.

dsc03812_editedFor my first outfit, I decided to go with a short sleeve lace dress I had picked up from Penningtons in late December before Christmas.  It seemed like a festive little number.  I paired the dress with a black cover-up that my wife had recently given
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Of course, you can’t stick with just one outfit all night,  so it was time to change.

 

 

 

My second pick for the night was a lace pencil skirt from Penningtons and a lace 2 piece top from Addition Elle.  Looking back at the pictures now I am thinking it was maybe a little too much lace but it was fun to wear for the rest of the night.

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When 10 pm rolled around I was dead on my feet so I packed it in for the night and headed to bed.  On Sunday I still had some time to kill do I decided to paint my natural nails which is something I don’t get very much chance to do.  When it was all said and done they did not meet my expectations and the pictures I tried to take did not turn out at all so needless to say I was not really happy,  but it was practice.

So that was my New Years Weekend,  nothing too exciting but it was fun for me.

What did you do?

Thanks for reading

Cynthia

Cynthia’s Holiday Wish List 2016

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We again are very close to the Holiday season and with that in mind I decided to go ahead and do a wish list for some stuff that I would love to find under the Christmas tree.

Penningtons Lace Pencil Skirt is just gorgeous in my opinion.  It has everything I love all wrapped up into one.  I love lace designs and with the black background.

 

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It reminds me of a Lingerie set I reviewed back awhile ago in  Cynthia’s Lingerie Drawer.  They would pair very well together in my opinion.

And of course to finish off the new skirt there has to be a new top to go along with it.  I could not decide between the two Addition Elle tops in either black or white.

I would lean more towards he white one myself but I think the black could be paired nicely.

 

Can’t have a new Holiday Outfit without a new pair of shoes.  Torrid has recently opened up a store not too far away from where I live.  Searching around their website I found this little number that should pair well with the skirt (I think).

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And what is a new Holiday outfit without  some Holiday themed lingerie.  Although not mentioned as such in the Addition Elle website you have to admit with the festive red and black lace these to have a Holiday feel to them.

2016 was a year I was at times able to dress a little more than I normally could because the Child was away at some camps and staying over at friends houses so I was able to practice my make up more than I ever have before.  Awhile back I picked up a ECOTOOLS Day to Night 6 piece brush set and was amazed and what a decent set of tools can to to help.  Although the set looks different now it can be seen here.  I think my next logical step would be to pick up the Essential Eye Set to try and work on my shadow skills.  I really must say I was very pleased with the quality of these brushes.

And last but not least I would love to get a gift card for either MAC or Sephora.  It would be really nice if I could actually work up the courage to go into one of these places and get myself some real matching foundation.

So that’s my 2016 Holiday wish list.  Love it hate it?  leave me a comment and tell me what’s on your list.

Thanks for reading

Cynthia

 

 

Canadian Content

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While surfing online recently I came across a new Company that I I had never heard of before.  Upon further inspection it turns out this company is Canadian owned.  Of course I had to do some more digging find about a bit more.

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Unless you you are a size 10 in Canada you will know most plus size fashions store in Canada can be very pricey.  I am a avid shopper at Addition Elle and Penningtons but I usually only buy  when they have sales on due to the sometimes steep prices.  A nice dress at either of the aforementioned places can be anywhere from $80.00 and up.

Hip and Curvy sells plus sized fashions for a really decent price and has many different styles from Maxi Dresses and Rompers to Skater dresses and Blouses.  There seems to be a style for almost anyone who is looking for trendy and reasonably priced Curvy Clothes.  I picked out my 2 faves and posted them below,  The Jamie and The Karly

Like I always do when I find a new place to shop I contacted the owner and ask if they are CD/TG Friendly and ask permission to do a blog post about their product.  Business owner Jennifer was quick to email me back and stated she has sold clothes to Crossdressers on a few occasions.  I decided to do a little bit of a interview and spotlight some of the fashions she sells.  Her website can be found at Hip and Curvy

1: What was the main reason you decided to get into Curvy Clothes?

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I have been plus size since i hit puberty. At my slimmest I was a size 14. I always struggled finding trendy clothes that I could afford. Thus, Hip and Curvy was born. I want all curvy women to wear clothes that they feel GREAT in; confident in. Just because I am fat, doesn’t mean I should have to wear ugly clothes.

2: Do you prefer “Curvy” over “Plus Size”

I am so comfortable with myself that it doesn’t matter what you call me. I am fat. I am a size 20 and I have lots of fat, however, I look fabulous! I think that once you are comfortable with who you are, it doesn’t matter what someone wants to refer to you as.

3: Do you do the designs yourself?

I do not design the clothes myself, but I select all of the styles personally. I select items that I feel are flattering for curvy women!

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4: Do you just ship in Canada or Internationally?

At the moment, I am targeting a Canadian audience because there is more access to plus size clothing in the United States. However, I am open to shipping internationally if needed!

5: What do you think is most important when picking out a new dress?

I think the most important thing when picking out a new dress is finding the right color for your complexion. TRY THINGS ON! TRY NEW THINGS!!!! Finding a dress that fits your curves is important as well. If you don’t have a waist, buy something that makes it look like you have a waist (Empire is usually best for this). Depending on the occasion, when appropriate, show a bit of cleavage!

6: Where would you like to see your business in 5 years?

In 5 years, I would like to be designing the clothes myself and having my designs manufactured. In order to do this, I have to build up my clientelle, which is happening now.

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The Nikki

I would like to thank Jennifer for taking time out to answer my questions and I am hoping at some point I will be able to order a piece from her.

Thanks For Reading

Cynthia